So while I don’t do new year resolutions, I am trying to take better care of myself this year. Of course, like most parents I really don’t have the time to invest too much in it, or a disposition which particularly enjoy lots of glittery girly fuss. My aim is mostly to not feel like a bag of crap and look reasonably presentable. There’s a few things I’ve been using over the past two months which are quickly becoming staples and definitely get a thumbs up from this busy Mum: Mother’s Select Probiotics These were gifted to me Mothers Select and they couldn’t have come at a better time. I’ve taken probiotic supplements in the past, usually combined with a multi vitamin. These take it to another level with a stand alone product designed for mums and mums to be. After a few weeks I’ve already noticed a difference with… View Post

Want to know how to cook steak well and make a £4 rump taste like £8 fillet steak? Ever wonder how to get your steaks at home to taste as succulent and tender as the ones you get in a restaurant? I’m going to tell you how I achieve excellent results every time, without splurging on expensive cuts. I like to use rump steak. It’s cheaper than fillet and very accessible. If you shop around you can get a decent sized portion for about £3-£4, which makes it an economical treat. My husband is a hug meat-lover so if he’s telling me it’s the best steak he’s had, then I’m going to take that as a complement. He almost choked when I told him how much I actually spent on the steak! (These steaks cost less than £3.80 each in Aldi) So what’s my secret? It’s all in the preparation. About… View Post

If you’re a regular reader, you might have read my recent post about my joy at finally getting a pair of skinny jeans that fit. A baby and hitting forty hasn’t done my figure any favours. I don’t particularly mind. I’ve reached a quiet acceptance that things aren’t going to bounce back as quickly as they used to. I’m okay with that as long as I feel good and I’m healthy. Still it’s easy as a mum when you are exhausted and have little time for self care, to feel down about your appearance. You only have to look on Instagram of Facebook to see perfectly made up, well groomed period looking back at you. You might not always feel as good as you used to and at some point someone has compounded it.  It might have been an offhand remark that was meant to be “kind” or “encouraging”, but… View Post

Can you stop asking me whether we’ll have another child please? I’m not talking about you, but them. You know the ones I mean. The random people. Your family and close friends know what you went through to have the child you have. They know about the losses.  They might know about your messed up medical history and psychologically what it takes to make the decision to try again.  They see hand how exhausted you are and how you’re struggling to keep it together. They know better to ask. Or at least they should. But why do strangers feel it’s okay to ask about your ovaries and your reproductive plans? It infuriates me.  Knowing nothing about you, they role up their sleeves and start rummaging around your metaphorical womb as if they’re looking for a lost sock in their drawers. You’ve one child, if I just keep poking about, I’m bound… View Post

Blog Love Laura at Dear Bear and Beany featured me on her weekly #SharingtheBlogLove Showcase for my post about the benefits of being an older mum. This meant a lot to me. I wasn’t sure how that post would land. I’m not advocating having children later, but there are distinct challenges to having children later and it’s good to have a reminder that it’s not all bad. It would be easy for me to feel sad that I probably won’t be alive when my son is my age or that I might never see grandchildren or be fit enough to help care for them. He will never have a granddad figure as they’ve already passed away. In fact there are some upsides. I’m certainly more together and self-aware than my twenty something self for a start, even if I do ache a bit when I wake up in the morning.… View Post